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The Friday Five

Who was your first best friend? Jeff England. He lived around the street and across the busy one. It was elementary school. I recall so little of that time of life. A huge snow cave that he and his brother built into the snow pile at the end of his rather long, for a small city, driveway. That and the trauma of school boundary changes and my trek in 180 degrees the other way in my last year or two as a native of the town of my birth.

Who have been some of the most influential people in your life? So many unnamed influentials, mainly because their influence went unnoticed when they sere near. Mostly they gave me short phrases that I slowly came to see the meaning of over the longer stretch of time. There is a Marine Corp Gunnery Sergeant who, in the course of getting me to learn how to get my body up the wall of a Vermont mountain, gave me a few words. They were not off hand then and immediately had an impact upon me far more significant than the little irregularities my fingers sought to keep me stable or my feet sought to bear my weight. It was one of those large in small ways enlightenment moments.

Do you usually have one best friend or a lot of close friends? So often in this mobile life of mine none was nearby. And with distant relationships so hard to maintain in the pre-Internet days that meant they were lost except for those happy reunions.

Do you believe people of the opposite sex can be best friends and not lovers? Yes, if they are mature enough to handle the inevitable sexual tension maturely. Yes, if they were once lovers but have moved through the chrysalis into a new phase. Yes, is the are occasional lovers too for why should they not be.

Have you ever fallen in love with a friend? Many times.


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Jul. 20th, 2005 04:35 am (UTC)
"Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship." -Oscar Wilde
I disagree with this epigram, but it does appear to reflect the opinion of the 'norm'.
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